Why is my marriage faltering?
There are many reasons why your marriage might be at risk such as work-related stress, financial concerns, emotional incompatibility, and different ideas about child rearing, differing values, an affair, boredom, lack of fun, or sex & intimacy issues.
Is there any hope?
Few marital issues, however big, are unsolvable if each partner truly wants to repair the relationship.
Most fights are about emotional disconnection and this relates closely to poor communication skills. Love is an ongoing process of losing and recreating emotional connection. People have affairs because they are lonely and have lost emotional connection with their partners.
What’s needed to make my relationship flourish?
All couples in a marriage or relationship need:
- Emotional security and a sense of safety with one another;
- Variety and stimulus in daily life together;
- Love and emotional connection through regular, honest communication;
- A strong sense of significance from the partner – each feeling she/he is a priority and very special to the other.
Are any of these basic human needs going unmet in your relationship?
How can we repair our relationship?
When your relationship runs into trouble, you should immediately seek help; waiting rarely solves the problem and the longer the tension is left, the more the outward, negative behaviours become entrenched.
Ilona teaches how couples can fulfil each other’s needs and how to recover quickly after a fight. The fighting is actually not the problem; it is the ability to recover after a conflict that is the most important factor in creating or maintaining a healthy marriage.
As a trained and very experienced therapist, Ilona helps you find the real underlying issues and then systematically eliminate them.
You deserve to have the relationship you want!